Oh, I know what it’s like eating at restaurants when travelling solo. You walk into a restaurant on your own and you get the looks. You know, those looks. The ones where you think that the people looking are;
A) Feeling sorry for you as you have no friends/boyfriend
B) Think you’ve been stood up
C) They look confused as how could you possibly be seen to be eating alone
D) Thinking you’re cool because you’re a bad ass chick who doesn’t need anyone (lol, this is highly unlikely but I like to imagine)
E) All of the above!
When I go travelling this is one of the things that plagues me. Do I sit and eat alone in front of people or just get room service?
And, every time I think f**k it – I want to go out! I didn’t come here to hide away.
I’ve eaten at some pretty weird places on my own. I think my all time favourite was the most romantic place on earth – the Eiffel Tower! Yeah, it was my finest moment sticking up a middle finger at society.
I don’t need a boyfriend to go on holiday and I don’t need one to eat out at nice places.
In fact, while I’m writing this very article I’m sitting alone at a restaurant in Pondicherry, India. Eating a lovely steak dinner with the best company I know…me!! (Jokes, but seriously)
All you need is a little courage, confidence (even if it’s fake it til’ you make it) and thick skin.
If you’re still worried about eating out alone while traveling, here are some tips to help you own it!
No romantic date for the Eiffel Tower, oh well! Still a great view with my picnic.
1. Be confident or act like it!
I always stick to a rule of fake it til’ you make it! What better attitude to have than to act so confident that people will want to join you? You’re not alone because you were abandoned, you’re alone out of choice.
Own it, be it. You are braver than you think.
Although I was joking above, you’re thinking and thoughts can have a massive impact on the way you are and the way you hold yourself while travelling.
If you think that all those people staring are envious and think you’re awesome for being alone. You’ll start to feel awesome. Trust me, it works.
At a night time dinner cruise in Budapest, champagne was £1 a glass – don’t stop pouring the bubbles!
2. Bring distractions
Obviously, it helps to have some distractions. Your phone, a book, a note pad – bring all those things with you. Make the most of your time.
If the restaurant has wifi even better! That means you can stare at your phone and not think about any looks you’re getting.
Just enjoy and appreciate having the time to cover off any emails, edit photos, replying to friends or catching up with the world outside your travel bubble.
At the Blue Lagoon in Iceland. Lot’s of couples, lot’s of stares and couldn’t use my phone. Luckily, I had my Gopro so kept busy. Also, my ticket came with alcohol (yay!)
3. Make conversation
This may be a little awkward for some but actually when you’re travelling alone people are more likely to start conversations with you, not the other way around.
The amount of times people have asked me to join them is untrue and I don’t let those moments pass me by.
Unless you’re in a bad mood and really want the alone time, it’s a great opportunity to meet new people.
One of the reasons you probably travelled is to meet other people in the first place, so go for it!
Making friends in Marrakech! I still keep in touch with these guys today 🙂
4. Order booze
Okay, so not a necessity but if you’re going to drown your sorrows – why not with a local alcoholic beverage?!
A lot of the time booze are part of the culture of the country you’re visiting and it would help to support the local breweries, wineries or distilleries in the area.
Plus, it gives you a little dutch courage for that meal alone!
Table for one with the best views of Istanbul…and a glass of wine please!
5. Give no f**ks
Again, this relates to the confidence rule but I must stress it. Who gives a sh*t.
If you’re travelling from place to place, you’re most likely NEVER going to see these people again! So why not just enjoy it? Ignore the haters.
Get that sharing platter for one, toast yourself (or a friend on Skype), eat that dessert! You only have one life, may as well live it to the fullest.
Yes, I took the best spot at RAAS in Jodhpur for my dinner solo! What a view! The waiter was my photographer, he took more photos when the romantic candle was lit as it added ‘another dimension’. Pity it didn’t add another person 😉
6. Take pictures of your victory
I’ve left the best purposely until last. My favourite. The ultimate revenge. A picture of your bravery, no f**kery and efforts.
You made it here, you may as well smile while doing it!
Get the waiter to take a picture of you, or take a selfie, post it to Facebook or add to your instagram stories and show the world you’re confidence.
There’s no shame in eating alone. What. So. Ever.
You’re the only one you’ve got, for better or worse.
A coffee and a dosa in the morning make me happy!
You rock. You can do this. Never forget that.
You deserve to have the best things in life if you’re in a relationship, with friends or not. So, why not do these things alone? Don’t miss out.
Who cares what anyone else thinks, life is just too short! Learn to love your own company and you’ll love yourself all the more for it.
Enjoy your dinner; you deserve it!
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